And, my "haps" around social media pt. 1

Helping Her Helps Me

Last week was a big week for me.

Click the photo to find out more. Part one.

  • 11 August 2015
  • Author: Tracey Yokas
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Or, how an editor makes all the difference. . .

My "haps" around social media pt. 2

Jennie Nash, my editor and book coach, titled her Friday blog post last week, "What Bravery Looks Like In A Writer." I am so honored that her post was about me! I am working to embrace courage more often in my daily life (a lesson I learned from my lady crush, Brené Brown), but I didn't have much courage in regard to the piece I wrote (Helping Her Helps Me) because of the sensitive subject matter and because it involved my daughter. Jennie encouraged me to explore my reticence to attach my name to the essay, and to make sure I was making my decision for the right reasons. None of this would have happened without her, and I couldn't be more grateful.

To read more about my decision, click the photo.

  • 10 August 2015
  • Author: Tracey Yokas
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A different take on before and after. . .

Before and After

I learned this lesson the hard way a couple of years ago, and I learned it again in full force over the last month when the son of a woman I know jumped off a roof to his death; the next day, I learned about two more recent suicides that happened in families I know of. Most people don’t think about the decision to stay alive as a choice, we don’t consider the option to say, No, thanks to life, but some people do. These are the befores and afters that change everything.

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  • 5 August 2015
  • Author: Tracey Yokas
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Air drying and the smell of joy

Notes on Gratitude

An incredible aroma emanated out of the open cabinet. I took a deep breath in through my nose. The smell was a beautiful combination of lily and narcissus, gillyflower and fuchsia, passion fruit and shea butter. See those soap bars at the bottom of the photo?  I was enveloped in their heavenly scent. I took another deep breath in and slowly let it out. Immediately, I saw in my mind’s eye the smiling face of the person that was with me in the store in Boulder, CO where I purchased those bars of soap. Two seconds later I was lost in pleasant memories of the weekend I spent there and all the people (so dear to me) with whom I spent it—joy coming from one simple delightful whiff. The thrill of my conniving thoughts to swap out a tub of shave balm for intensive moisturizing hair conditioner evaporated and was replaced by gratitude for the memories of that special weekend with special friends.

Click the photo to read more about soap, toilet paper and gratitude.

  • 3 August 2015
  • Author: Tracey Yokas
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What I'm reading and how it helps. . .

Just Finished, Up Next

Looking back on those early days, I have so much empathy for the me of then. Some people might call that selfish, to focus attention on myself. I call it imperative. We can’t give to others what we don’t have for ourselves. It took me a long time to figure out that the best way to improve my relationship with my daughter and to aid in her recovery was to improve my relationship with myself. Developing empathy was a major step in that process.

Click the photo to read more about how empathy helped me. . .

  • 29 July 2015
  • Author: Tracey Yokas
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